Benefit. Here is a challenging question, what are the benefits that you are getting from your not changing your life, not getting physically or emotional well?
Perhaps is means that you would have to work harder?
Maybe it means that you would then have give up the pity you receive from others?
Perhaps you then can't be a rude as you want, or have a get-out-of-jail-free card because you are . . . ?
I receive many benefits from my physical or psychological illnesses, am I willing to give those up? Often, I'm not, but that is the first step to healing.
Today, sit down and think, what benefits are you receiving by not getting well?
Get skin in the game.