One of the best mantras I use all the time, I learnt from a friend of ours who is a child psychologist.
Let's face it, I need the same advice as an 7 year old in a fit of rage on a playground, but it works:
Stop whatever you are doing, unless you are trying to dodge an actual bullet, the world won't end within the next few seconds. Ryan Holiday writes, 'The worst thing that can happen is not the event, it's the event and losing your head'. This is too true, whoever gets angry first, loses in the end.
Then pause to get out of that lizard brain and into your rational prefrontal cortex. Think and become aware of what is happening, where the danger lies, what the best course of action will be, and most importantly what the consequences will be, especially if you just steam ahead. '
The gods seem to think we have a choice. Perhaps it is what makes us human.
Stop. Think. Choose.
I am a flâneur, which basically means I spend a lot of time in coffee shops watching the world go by.